i really don't have much to add, there's been a lot of wisdom shared here. i don't know if it's possible for you to go visit too, but being there and just helping with the day to day stuff makes the most difference. maybe a gift card to his pharmacy to help with groceries or other medical expenses that might not be covered by medicare.
he might be conflicted about not wanting to desert you and your brothers -- potentially seeing it as abandoning the already-orphaned kids. letting him know that he doesn't need to hang on for you might be enough to let him know it's okay for him to go.
also, have any of you been able to speak with his partner about what's happening on a daily basis?
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Date: 2011-07-08 02:57 am (UTC)he might be conflicted about not wanting to desert you and your brothers -- potentially seeing it as abandoning the already-orphaned kids. letting him know that he doesn't need to hang on for you might be enough to let him know it's okay for him to go.
also, have any of you been able to speak with his partner about what's happening on a daily basis?