conversations with Natalie
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moominmollyMy hungry bee:
A conversation on the way to the Friendly Toast on Saturday, as we were both squeezing through a hole in a bench:
N: We're squeezing through a bench!
M: Yup!
N: And it's easier for me because I'm tiny and small, and you're big and... well, I mean, is it okay if I say "fat"?
M: Sure!
N: And you're big and fat!
M: That is exactly why it's easier for you.
N: Some people don't like it when you say "fat". But you don't mind.
M: Yeah, some people don't like it, especially if you try to use it as a mean word. I don't mind, though. I think it's just descriptive.
N: YOU'RE STEPPING IN LAVA! DON'T STEP IN THE LAVA!
(Most serious conversations with her end sort of like that.)
Complicated! Complicated. I really don't mind if she says I'm fat, because I am more on the round side than, say,![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
dilletante; all I can do is model being happy and active and healthy in my body how it is. Conveniently, this is pretty easy for me. But, seriously, all the big conversations happen when you're doing and expecting something else, don't they? And they're gone so quickly.
A conversation on the way to the Friendly Toast on Saturday, as we were both squeezing through a hole in a bench:
N: We're squeezing through a bench!
M: Yup!
N: And it's easier for me because I'm tiny and small, and you're big and... well, I mean, is it okay if I say "fat"?
M: Sure!
N: And you're big and fat!
M: That is exactly why it's easier for you.
N: Some people don't like it when you say "fat". But you don't mind.
M: Yeah, some people don't like it, especially if you try to use it as a mean word. I don't mind, though. I think it's just descriptive.
N: YOU'RE STEPPING IN LAVA! DON'T STEP IN THE LAVA!
(Most serious conversations with her end sort of like that.)
Complicated! Complicated. I really don't mind if she says I'm fat, because I am more on the round side than, say,
dilletante; all I can do is model being happy and active and healthy in my body how it is. Conveniently, this is pretty easy for me. But, seriously, all the big conversations happen when you're doing and expecting something else, don't they? And they're gone so quickly.![[identity profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/openid.png){kind=small}
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Date: 2010-08-02 04:09 pm (UTC)me: yep. what should I do about it?
Rio: nothing. I love you chubby. You are more comfortable to sit on than Daddy. Please stay chubby.
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Date: 2010-08-02 04:18 pm (UTC)I remember being fairly young, and having a babysitter who was relaxing on the couch with one of our cats on her, and she said that cats liked to sit on her because she was fat, and I was utterly confused, because it was one of the first times -- maybe the first time -- I'd ever encountered a woman who was unashamedly fat, or heard bodyfat being treated as a positive good.
It's amazing what sticks in little brains.
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Date: 2010-08-02 04:28 pm (UTC)Out of the mouth of babes
Date: 2010-08-02 04:26 pm (UTC)Re: Out of the mouth of babes
Date: 2010-08-02 04:28 pm (UTC)Re: Out of the mouth of babes
Date: 2010-08-03 03:11 pm (UTC)Also,
Re: Out of the mouth of babes
Date: 2010-08-03 03:12 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-08-02 04:38 pm (UTC)Then she told me she didn't need to pee and wasn't going to, and that was that.
*closes eyes* *dives*
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Date: 2010-08-02 04:44 pm (UTC)Yeah, that.
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Date: 2010-08-02 06:46 pm (UTC)It is about as hard as not stepping in lava sometimes.
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Date: 2010-08-02 09:34 pm (UTC)I feel like there are times when I am on my game enough to see and make use of the little opportunities for big conversations that come along, because they come up repeatedly in the course of a day. Other times, a week goes by without such an opportunity being apparent to me, and I wonder how much of it is me not being receptive to those chances, and how much of it is just her being in a different mood.
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Date: 2010-08-02 09:39 pm (UTC)I think I would have said that some people think it's not a nice word but I'm OK with it.
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Date: 2010-08-07 09:40 pm (UTC)